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The “Original Down Low” Brother

January 29th, 2007 at 09:08am Manchild

On day 29 of 2007, I couldn’t wait to get up and show up to see how many of you feel the same way I do about the state of the relationships between men and women. My heart sank upon recently hearing and reading reports from various sources that 70% of all African-American women are living single lives while 51% the rest of humanity’s women are also living the single life. Some of these single women claimed to be happier single than they were married. Based upon the reasons given for divorcing their spouses, that may be true.

It was just as disturbing to discover that the divorce rate among “Christian” couples hovers around 50%. One out of every two married Christian couples are still choosing to misbehave and behave badly, still refusing to “choose the nails,” and are still choosing not to share “a love that’s worth giving and receiving.” One out of every two Christian couples are, therefore, choosing not to follow the example of the leadership Jesus Christ modeled. For all the wrong reasons, one too many men are choosing not to bear the weight of the individualized cross that comes with every imperfect marriage between two imperfect people living in an imperfect world.

If God is perfect, if God’s divinely designed plan is perfect, if God is all knowing and all seeing, and if God created a woman to become a man’s most valuable resource, what happened? Can God make a mistake? I don’t think so. Do you? Have you ever asked yourself what went wrong with God’s perfect plan? I do constantly. Despite the myriad of reasons married couples choose to fight like mortal enemies, I’m still a firm believer that

“a wise woman has been and will always be a wise man’s most valuable resource.”

Based upon the Great Architect’s perfect plan and sovereign will, the gifted hands of the Master Potter removed a rib from Adam’s body to mold and shape into what a wise man will only refer to as a woman. I don’t know any great person wiser than our all-knowing and all-seeing Creator. Do you? Can it be that what’s wrong with the institution of a monogamous marriage between one man and one woman has more to do with the great weaknesses of imperfect husband and wives than it does with the greatness of the faithfulness of the only perfect Person willing to choose the nails?

Have you ever wondered who, or what, had the supernatural ability to jump smack dab into the middle of the Garden of Eden to destroy the relationship between Adam and Eve? I did before but not anymore because God gifted us all with the perfect clue that you’ll find in the Book of Genesis. Can it be the same charismatic, complicit, culpable, creepy crawler whose nefarious spirit slid inside the slippery skin of the low-down snake in the grass that became the original “down low brother”? (Please note: the term “brother” is not referring to the “ethnicity” of the person who is on the “down low.”)

Can it be the same deceitful mix master and divisive spin doctor whose infamous claim to fame is the father of lies, the master deceiver, the prince of darkness, the beautiful, albeit false, angel of light, the master of confusion, etc.? As the “church lady” character comedian Dana Carvey birthed during his stint on Saturday Night Live would say, “Can it be …. Satan”? So why refer to Satan the original down low brother? Because it’s clear from reading the Book of Genesis that Satan was the “first” down low deceiver who deliberately, and with premeditation, misrepresented the truth in more ways than one.

For nefarious reasons now known, Satan failed to reveal the truth about who he really was when his wickedly evil spirit approached Eve disguised as something he wasn’t. Satan, the master deceiver, also tainted the truth in order to carry out a hidden agenda by simply “adding” one word to what God told to Adam, not Eve. Doesn’t this heart-breaking scenario sound familiar to what’s still happening one too many times during such a deceptive and divisive season as this?

Satan, the greatest pretender of all times also deliberately, and with premeditation, committed copious crimes of passion when he came to Eve with a hidden agenda. How did the original down low brother destroy God’s perfect plan? How many times does the violence of this betrayal of silence happen between unsuspecting women and men on a daily basis? The answer is still one time too many. This disingenuous false prophet and false teacher didn’t choose to come correct while deliberately trying to wreck the blissful relationship between the two, not three, people God gifted to each other for all the right reasons.

In the face of Adam’s inexplicable absence, or betrayl of silence, the father of lies managed to distort and disguise the truth by simply “adding” one word to what God told Adam to share with Eve. This wasn’t the first time the fallen master of confusion utilized an alluring illusion by turning the truth into a “true lie.” What in the world is a true lie? If the truth is that which never changes, how can it become a true lie? If the truth is the same today as it was yesterday and will forever be tomorrow, what changed? Obviously God didn’t and neither did what Adam heard from God first-hand.

If the all-knowing One sitting high, but looking low, is Alpha and Omega, do you think it’s possible that our Creator is surprised by who, or what, is still killing, stealing, and destroying God’s perfect plan for the relationship between one man and one woman? I don’t. As many of you have already predicted, when you get up and show up this week, you’ll discover that the main topic of discussion for the next week will center on the critical condition of all the ailing “male-female” relationships that are failing at an alarming rate. Can it be that two is still better than one? Let me know what you think.

Can it be that three is still making a monogamous marriage between one man and one woman too crowded for great women and men who agreed to walk together as one peacefully? Can it be that one too many angry women and abusive men are really refusing to admit the truth that they are mad at God and are choosing to kick the scapegoat they blame for the crying shame they’ve created after lying to each other long before getting married in God’s name for all the wrong reasons? Think about it.

According to God’s perfect plan, I honestly believe that the basic building block that will galvanize the human race is the mutually rewarding relationship between one married man and one married woman. Do you? Can it be that Satan isn’t the only disingenuous down low brother who’s still lying to man’s most valuable resource and betraying our trust with the violence of their prolonged silence? Can it be that the father of lies has deceived generations of down low brother’s, who believed the lie to help divide, conquer, and destroy humanity’s global village from within instead of from without?

Since the truth is that which never changes, only God truly knows the reasons why two is still and will always be better than one till death steals the very last breath a husband and wife share for all the right reasons. For reasons now known, I’ll trust the perfect plan divinely designed to work together for the good of both Adam and Eve before the original down low brother invaded the privacy of their personal space.

Besides, it wasn’t their Creator’s fault that the deceived members of the first family believed the first true lie the first down low master deceiver told and sold to their exposed, naked, and ashamed souls. It wasn’t God’s fault that the pretentious prince of darkness slithered up to Eve disguised as a beautiful angel of light and persuaded the first lady of the first family to knowingly and deliberately commit the first crime of passion. It wasn’t God’s fault that Adam and Eve suffered the first series of eternal consequences that culminated with their eternal eviction from the first “place of pleasure” I frequently refer to as the “Garden of Eden.”

Can it be that the time has finally come for great people to stop getting mad at the big dog, who kept fighting you and biting you where it hurt the most, and kicking the co-dependent cat sitting closest to you and still licking all the open wounds created by the sins of all the other imperfect people who kept hitting you below the belt? Think about it. But, be forewarned! Our antagonistic spiritual enemies will not roll over and passively allow any of you to believe that great people like us with great weaknesses like ours are the only imperfect people responsible for messing up God’s perfect plan. Always remember,

“Power still concedes nothing without a struggle.”

God willing, we’ll continue to discuss the moral and spiritual demise of one too many male-female relationships from a slightly different perspective than what great people like you are accustomed to hearing or reading about on a daily basis. Hence, each of you will react differently based upon the personalized version of the true lie that you’ve been conditioned to accept as the unadulterated truth.

Although our galvanized group of imperfect people has agreed to walk together in peace and work together for good as one, your individualized response to the external stimuli you’re about to receive will vary from one person to the next. So, can agree that it will be okay to respectfully disgree with each other so we can keep walking together in peace while working together as one for the good of all God’s children? I hope so.

Until we meet again, may the peace of God be with each of you as we keep pushing past the pain that’s still standing between our God-given ability to achieve great things and make our big dreams come true. As always, the choice to do so is yours alone to make on day 29 of 2007.

©Copyright 2007 by Roderick O. Solomon. All Rights Reserved.

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