As A Sign Of Respect
May 4th, 2007 by Manchild
As a sign of respect, I’m dedicating the entire month of May 2007 to the women that God has gifted to the blended, extended families of humanity’s culturally diverse global village. Since I am the “first man” my daughter will ever love, I must lead by example. I will protect her and my wife, KWiz, with my life because as comedian, Mr. Steve Harvey, says often,
“That’s what real men do.”
To help educate the men in your lives, please participate in this month’s tribute to “man’s most valuable resource” by posting a comment about books written by and about women.
We, as men, have so much to learn about the women God has commanded us to love absent any conditions. As evidenced by Ephesians 5:25-27 NASB, and Ephesians 5:33 NASB, isn’t it interesting that God did not ask women to do the same?
According to the Scriptures, God only asked the wives of men to “respect” their husbands. Do you ever wonder why? If not, reading, “Marital Love,” by Biblical Foundations For Freedom will challenge you to dig deeper into the reasons why God is challenging men to “earn” the respect of the wives in our lives.
Despite what one too many may believe, the men who have chosen to love, honor, and respect all women are hanging our ears on every powerful word you speak. Our hearts, minds, and arms are open as we both humbly and respectfully enter into your powerful presence.
We, as men, have a lot of work to do to repair the damage that’s been done by the words that have come forth out of our mouths. Matters not how much hearing the sobering truth that makes people free may hurt.
We will not run away because we’re “here to stay.” We will not defend, nor justify, our actions by scapegoating the “sins of other men.” We will not blame our misogynistic, dehumanizing, demeaning, demoralizing, devaluing, denigrating, and dishonorable behavior on what happened in times past. If we try, don’t hesitate to check us and if necessary, kick us to the curb until our actions speak louder than our words.
There’s an excellent book, No More Excuses, by Dr. Tony Evans for the men to read who may not understand that we must choose to do better now that we know better. As always, the choice to do so will keep you from falling to your knees and saying,
“Baby, please don’t go!!”
Yesterday is now history. Our women don’t care and don’t want to hear about what “so-n-so” did yesterday. Two wrongs don’t make it right. Today is a new day. Women the world over are hurting today because of what’s still happening today. I’m challenging all men to simply say, ” I hear you,” whenever the women God commanded us to love challenge us, confront us, and constructively criticize us. Only then will our wives and the women in our lives begin to respect us.
Think about it. Difficult? Yes! Impossible? No! Together, we can beat impossible odds and complete what appear to be an impossible task with God’s help. Are you willing to try? For our women’s sake, I hope you will take the time to let our “unsung sheroes” know beyond the shadow of any doubt that we hear their cries for our help.
So men, let’s not blow it this time because we may never again get a second chance to earn the respect and love of the women who birthed us, nurtured us, cared for us, raised us, supported us, stood by us, cried and died for us, paved the way for us, and saved us from ourselves when nobody but Jesus loved us in spite of ourselves.
During the month of June, I will give the women an opportunity to highlight the real men who have courageously risen to the occasion during what I honestly believe is yet another divinely ordained opportunity for tremendous personal growth.
How many of you believe that leaders are made, not born? How many of you believe that women are better leaders than men? Please feel free to elaborate so that we can engage one another in what I hope will become an enlightening discussion.
Please pray without ceasing fervent effective prayers that will availeth much for each of us as men individually, and collectively, spin from within and begin something new with our God-given gifts, talents, and abilities. With your help, the real men in your lives will learn to respect “the power of a wise woman’s words” as our humbled souls turn in the refining fire of Adversity’s fiery furnace.
Copyright 2007 by Roderick O. Solomon. All Rights Reserved.
Thank you for this awesome post; it definitely made my day. More women need to read it. Peace and Love.
Hello Vanessa,
You’re so very welcome. Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment.
My favorite author at the present time is Carry Slee – a Dutch author.. She writes about real issues that children face.. I have recently become a fan..
Her Bio: The work of Carry Slee is unique in many ways. Since 1989 she has written seventy books and so far she has sold 4 million copies. Carry Slee has won the Price of the Dutch Kinderjury nine times and the Price of the Dutch Jonge Jury four times. Carry Slee writes for children of all ages. She writes in plain language which appeals to young people. In her books, she does not shy away from difficult subjects such as homosexuality, drug abuse or divorce. Because of her humoristic and easy going approach, her books are never heavy going. For her book Afblijven Carry Slee received the Prize of the Nederlandse Kinderjury (10-12 years) in 1999 and in 2000 the Prize of the Jonge Jury (12-15 years). In 2006 the first cross media youth film Afblijven, from the book by Carry Slee, was released in the cinemas.
This is a fabulous article!
Thank you so much for speaking on a topic that seems to be ignored lately!
I have linked this article on my site about finding a great guy!
thank you again!
Jennifer
[...] Thanks to Jennifer for pointing me to this amazing blog by a guy who is one of the few “REAL men” left on the planet. Some of his articles, like As a Sign of Respect, really blew me away. Standing “beside” every good man is a wise woman whose love inspired him to become a great man during a crucial age and critical stage of his personal development. Please note that this wise woman is not standing behind, nor in front of, the inspired man whose life she is enhancing. Why? [...]
Hello Peety,
Thank you, for participating and taking the time to comment. I will research the prolific, critically acclaimed author of the book you’ve suggested.
So many great books. So little time to read them all.
Hello Jennifer,
Thank you, for the kinds words! I’m honored that you would choose to link this article to your site.
You are to be commended for what you’re doing to help heal the broken relationships between men and women.
We have a lot of work to do. It’s nice to know that somebody recognizes your efforts to make a difference.
Hello Soul Kadee,
I thank Jennifer for sharing my work with you. There are so many great men in the world who share my passion to love, honor, respect, and protect our women. Unfortunately, the media tends to focus on the bad apples who makes us all look bad.
In response, we are beginning to shine the spotlight on the plethora of great women and men who are being ignored by the mainstream media.
God willing, we will focus on the great men during the month of June who put me to shame. I’m constantly looking for mentors to teach me how to be a better man, friend, husband, and father.
Thank you, for stopping by and participating. If time permits, please submit a book title written by and about women to be added to our Bookstore.
thanks to soul kadee for pointing me to this wonderful post! beautiful.