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“Not everything that is faced can be changed.  But nothing can be changed until it is faced.” — James Baldwin

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16 Responses to “One Reason Why Nothing Changes”

1. on 22 Mar 2009 at 2:36 pm1 Filipino Jobs

   I very much agree. Someone need to start before anyone can finish it.

2. on 01 Apr 2009 at 1:06 am2 Sadia

   “They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” – Andy Warhol
   Read this recently and wanted to share.
   You have posted some very inspiring quotes !

   Take care.

3. on 02 Apr 2009 at 7:12 pm3 riders

   Its nice and good informative blog,i like its.

4. on 10 Apr 2009 at 12:06 am4 Virtual Assistant

   Any changes can cost pain so people do not like it all. They prepare to stay with tradition and culture. I am glad there are people who are ready to embrace the pain of change.

5. on 12 Apr 2009 at 9:12 am5 Kimberly Saia Bock

   Here here. I imagine it’s difficult for most people to feel the loneliness that oftentimes accompanies change.

6. on 14 Apr 2009 at 1:59 pm6 Brother Vince

   The pain of change will soon be forgotten when the
   benefits are realized. We need only to adapt.

7. on 17 Apr 2009 at 3:49 pm7 JD

   James Baldwin is deep, often times we become nonconfrontational when unplesant issues need addressing. In business, to put off difficult task can kill growth

8. on 28 Apr 2009 at 3:15 pm8 Ms. Denise

   I certainly agree with Baldwin and want to add a footnote, although the issues we are facing may not be changed, something within us will inadvertantly be changed..prayerfully for the good.

9. on 05 Jun 2009 at 3:19 pm9 JusTina-Marie Simba-Masozera

   JBaldwin, could not have put it better, change comes from within us; if we do not change everything remains the same because of our mind-set. However, as said above by everyone; with change comes loneliness and depending on where your journey begins; for the individual to get to (this point) often comes from a turning point in life, which often one goes through as compounding post-traumatic moments. This happens during times when we need to know if everything, possible that should, is or was, made available.
   Regrets (charges) differently from these “two kinds of extremes in feelings”, filling two apathies: one experiences a reaction of an upward surge of passion with the need to putting right retrospectively, and the other a downward with excruciating helpless, unresolved emotional and philosophical pains, in grieving process.
   If you are especially in these two extremes, it may be wise to seek some kind of help, through either a close friend or GP who can refer you to the appropriate help. If you on the other hand are as brave as some of my friends are and want to “soldier it”, or put it to a bad day, as per-se or using the poor man’s priory over a drink in their locals pubs or with friends on a night out. It may be wise, to-also-confide in another impartial friend that does not share in drink drowning of emotions, a sober friend that can help talk through issues with you during cold sober times to maintain perspective, instead of turning your “groundbreaking moment” into “a tearful mourn” or “euphoria of mambo jumbo”.
   Some of my other friends say, “They find resolutions from seeking “indirect help” through handling their issues in “altered segments” of their “hypothesises” or “big issues” going on for them, and eventually finding a solution”. This approach is some places can seem like odd behaviour if they are detected by the other person they are playing mind games with, but most people allow it and the Africans mostly enable it through riddles which the seeker makes their own conclusions or works with as a lifetime underpinning ideology based on the momentousness leading to the conversations.
   I find both helpful especially talking through issues with my trusted friends in the meantime of my therapist sessions, I find “the externalising solution approach” eliminates any self-importance on any account on the subject matter, and attributes merit to the (process) without bias, with the help and ongoing exploration of my progress and steadfastness with a therapist. With that, I am truly grateful to NHS modern day social change management and the progress of our modern day psychology towards accountability and responsibility.
   If on the other hand, you are like me: sociologically sensitive about social dynamic s and euphorically tunes into societal patterns, it is wise to create a transparent system of support “social democratisation through nurture”. I highly recommend that everyone in a principal or tending position should access support, through any of the alternatives; seek help from a family member, friend, GP or occupational therapist if you prefer.
   Although this may seem intrusive and labelled at first, in the end it is liberating all round as it restores the enabling/provider roles to their actual positions without the eminence of top-down roles among our enables or providers today; with the potent syndrome in our systems today of “do-as-I-say, not as-I-do”, creating decadence in our cherished civilisation.

10. on 08 Jun 2009 at 4:54 am10 Telesales Tips

    I totally agree on this. if you want to change something, you need to face it!

11. on 10 Jun 2009 at 7:23 pm11 mr. nichols

    some people think they can run away from a situation, change a hairstyle, call themselves a different name and say they’ve changed. but like the great writer said, change only comes when one can confront what he or she ran from.

12. on 11 Jun 2009 at 3:58 pm12 Liggybee

    That is so true…Life does not happen to us. We make things happen in our lives. You can’t accomplish anything by waiting for things to happen.

13. on 08 Jul 2009 at 5:18 pm13 Anonymiss

    I love this quote. I will add it to my list of essential quotes.

14. on 09 Jul 2009 at 9:26 pm14 Dila

    I agree indeed. Thank you for sharing the quote.

15. on 31 Jul 2009 at 8:31 am15 Kate M

    The only constant in life is change. That’s what I live by. When I become stagnant, I become unhappy. I have a compulsion to evolve.

16. on 20 Oct 2009 at 9:58 am16 Telesales Tips

    Next to doing the right thing, the most important thing is to let people know you are doing the right thing. Just be open with changes!

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